Dan Keusal, M.S., LMFT

Jungian Psychotherapy for Individuals & Couples

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Dan Keusal, M.S., LMFT, Psychotherapist. (206) 523-1340. Email: dankeusal@dankeusal.com


"What Do You Hear In These Sounds?" 

"Living With Purpose And Passion"

The Dan Keusal e-newsletter


Summer 2012   

In This Issue
Reflections by Dan: "What Do You Hear In These Sounds."
3 Good Poems.
Upcoming workshops.
Psychotherapy Services.
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Quotes for Inspiration

And Reflection.

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"What's madness
but nobility of soul
at odds
with circumstance?" 

 (Theodore Roethke)

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"I do not want to know

the reason for it all.

I want to see

the wonder of it all."

(Rabbi Abraham Heschel)


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"The fundamental difference  

between creating  

and problem solving  

is simple.  

In problem solving,  

we seek  

to make something  

we do not like  

go away.  

In creating, 

we seek 

to make something  

we  truly care about  


(Peter Senge)


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"Do you have the patience to wait  

until your mud settles and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving until  

the right action  

arises by itself?"

(Lao Tzu)


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Keusal, Dan CC 2010-04-22 (white right/bottom) My essay in this newsletter tells the story of how I stumbled a few weeks ago upon a 15-year-old song that shows what therapy looks like at its best, therapy the way I try to practice it with my own clients. Once again I am reminded: to truly understand the most important things in life (to "stand under" their mystery) seek out the perspective of an artist, a musician, a poet.

One technical footnote: a relatively new feature of my newsletters, one you may not be aware of, is that anything in red bold is a "link"--click on it, and it will take you to some interesting place on the web. Give these links a try, enjoy your summer, and let me know if I can be of help as you continue on your journey.



Reflections: "What Do You Hear In These Sounds."

"So tell me, where does the arrow point to?
Who invented roses?"

~Dar Williams

I've often wished I had some brief way to convey to people what the course of therapy might look like, the many benefits it offers, and why it is worth the effort and the time and the expense. Thanks to something I encountered on a recent day off, I think I've found a way to do this in just 3 minutes and 52 seconds.

An e-newsletter that showed up in my Inbox one morning featured the latest CD from a songwriter named Dar Williams. I'd heard of Williams years ago when I was working as a performing musician, and was curious to see what she'd been up to, so I followed the link in the newsletter and listened to a few clips from her new CD. From there I poked around her web site, and then searched YouTube for her music videos.

The video that caught my attention, though I wasn't sure why at first, was for a song called "What Do You Hear In These Sounds." I clicked on the link to start the video and learned in the first few seconds that this was a song about Williams' experience as a client in therapy:

"I don't go to therapy to find out if I'm a freak
I go and I find the one and only answer every week
And it's just me and all the memories to follow
Down any course that fits within a 50 minute hour"

I was already intrigued, but it was the next few lines that really got my attention, because they suggested that Williams and her therapist had gone beyond expedient, problem- solving approaches to therapy, and into deeper, richer waters:

"And we fathom all the mysteries, explicit and inherent
When I hit a rut, she says to try the other parent
And she's so kind, I think she wants to tell me something,

But she knows that it's much better if I get it for myself"

That's the heart of good therapy--to create the space where a client can "get it for myself," where they can come to see that their psyche, in its own good time, knows exactly where to go and how to get there. This flies in the face of the stereotype that therapy is about going to an "expert" to get their answers; instead, it fosters in the client a confidence in their own inner wisdom, a wisdom that holds the power to guide and sustain them long after any particular "answer" has outlived its usefulness.

In the last verse, Williams shares her fear that if she opened up to others who are on this journey,

"I would only start confessing,
and they'd know that I was scared
and they would know that I was guessing."

It seems we ALL feel that way sometimes; I hear it every day from my clients: "I'm weird"..."I'm different"..."Everyone else seems to get something that I don't." But Williams says that through telling "the stories that nobody hears," she found that "the wall came down"...and THAT is when she saw that others were "just like me," that she was not alone.

Therapy, then, isn't meant to stop with the healing of individuals. It's meant to connect us to one another, and to move us out into the world where we can become a force for communal healing. With an open heart and the eloquence of a poet, Williams speaks of her own experience of moving from self to others:

"And when I talk about therapy, I know what people think
That it only makes you selfish and in love with your shrink
But Oh how I loved everybody else
When I finally got to talk so much about myself..."

Jung once wrote that "When you treat the individual, you treat the culture." We live in a culture that is in deep need of healing and transformation. Perhaps that process will get a booster shot when more and more individuals turn their attention to evocative questions like "What do you hear in these sounds?"* And that process...may begin with you.



*If you're wondering about the song's title, I think it is a musician's twist on a famous psychological test, the Rorschach inkblot test. In the Rorschach, patients are shown a series of inkblots and asked "What do you see?" Conclusions are then drawn from analyzing the client's answers. Williams, I suspect, was simply showing that a good therapist, working with a musician (whose way of engaging the world could have as much to do with sound as it does sight), might ask the client to listen deeply to their life (rather than look at it) and then ask a different question: "What do you hear in these sounds?"...

3 Good Poems
"It is difficult to get the news from poems
yet men die miserably every day
for lack of what is found there."
~William Carlos Williams

Click on the titles below to read the poems online; you can also access them by going to the "Writings" page of my web site, finding the link for my "e-newsletters," and then clicking on link for the Summer 2012 edition:
  1. "Passage" (John Brehm) 
  2. "What Do You Hear In These Sounds" (Dar Williams) 
  3. "Black Sea" (Mark Strand) 

Upcoming workshops & lectures by Dan Keusal

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Psychotherapy for Individuals & Couples

"The greatest and most important problems in life
can never be solved,
only outgrown."

~C.G. Jung

I offer Jungian-oriented psychotherapy for individuals and couples. Whether you come to me with a problem (like depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues) or simply the sense that it's time for a change, I help you look at how that starting point is calling you to grow, and how you can respond with creativity, vitality, and hope.

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Find Your Purpose, Heal Your Pain, Live With Passion
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